Comments on: Twilight Love: Do You Love Like a Vampire & Is It a Good Thing?

By: samantha

samantha — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 06:14:04 +0000

I tried to watch the movie but to be honest i found it very boring and soppy..

I can understand why Edward would appeal to teenagers but a I fail to see what the attraction is to mature women.

By: shivani

shivani — Fri, 14 May 2010 11:27:15 +0000

i recently cought the twilight fever.When you wrote the post i was unaware of the book so just browsed through your points.
now that I read both the books i really liked the characters.
but what you said just kept coming back to me when i saw the movie..how he hogged her every minute, how in real life if i have a boy sitting in my bedroom at night,almost stalking me..i would scream and not love him.

So thank you for a very different but read insight to all this madness..

and i dont know if others felt it..but although i do like the story book version alot..it has brought in a very strange sadness in my heart…its true that any husband would protect his wife if in danger..but then does it mean we should start looking for danger to find our own edward???

By: MR REAZON

MR REAZON — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 16:19:04 +0000

“I think all women want a guy who is ready for unconditional love,without just wanting to get into her pants”

so what do men want? and are you also prepared to give unconditional love back?there is a scene in the first movie where edward brilliantly tells bella that he can mind read everyone in the room, ” sex…money..drugs ” but that he cannot read her.This is not some supernatural ability like you may think but through observation and experience ,a skill developed through his 104 year life time.She is an open mind which is why she can not be read while those that have a larger understanding of how society works will know most people,the majority, are collectivists & sheep,socially engineered & fuelled by materialsim.She also claims she has “no fear” His ability aswell as his sisters to forsee events is based on predictability,the visions only change when the individuals make different choices.I deffenetley feel for edward because he obviously has not been able to connect with anyone till belle who is not intrested in “shopping ” or getting her nails done etc; all the “normal” things girls do.If he was to engage in a relationship with an average girl he would get bored soon enough and this ladies is the real TRUTH.I do desire hot sexually attractive girls and it is great to have one,a girl that looks after herself seems to reflect confidence but most beutifull women are just that,pieces of meat with no mind of their own.They are extremley self obsessed and by looking so good they think that will keep their relationship together.These type of girls bore the shit out of blokes in the long run who want to be interlectually stimulated or feel UNCONDITIONAL love.To stop going insane we blokes start to spend more time down the pub or increase work hours which of course eventually just leads to the “2 strangers living together” or joke talk of being mere “lodgers/room mates/hosemates” .The predictable conversations and behaviour lead to bickering and awkward silences.The bloke(or woman!) gets bored and if he “cheats ” or begins to question his relationship he is ridiculed as a dog/slag/slut etc .Our perception of love i beleve is flawed,built on the hypocritical bias foundations of the concept in the ancient past whereby in a marriage a man was allowed as many women as he desired while his official wifes place was in the kitchen and if she “cheated” she usually got the death sentence.Sex is used to make us feel guilty when it occurs outside the official relationship and it has been embedded into the population as a means to reduce population numbers by governments.The idea that it is okay to “look but not touch” is a sick joke.Why do u think porn and sexual fantasies are so big right now???its the product of naturally supressed desires in ppl.Even if your bf/gf has never cheated on you in all honesty,how many times has he/she cheated on you in his/her mind? If this scares you then you need to re-adress the concept of what love is because to desire the control of soemone elses thoughts is plain sick.

By: MR REAZON

MR REAZON — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:12:33 +0000

Intresting blog and posts here.Funny enough my girlfriend just today after watching both films last night said to me on the phone ” wouldnt you like to be in that kind of love?” to which i sighed.It is intrresting that so many women love these kind of books & films and crave for the feelings that develop between the lead characters and i can tell you it is very very possible to experience such feelings but the problem is that most of us are infact very very fearfull,paranoid and selfish.I would say in reality,a very small % of the population like 3-5 % ever find that kind of love in their lives or should i say “keep/evolve that connection” i dont care how long you or someone you know have been together for,what their official status is and how many smiles are plastered on old photographs.Your thoughts and feelings cant be seen,only expressed or supressed.Those that express easilly especially in the modern world tend to go in and out of many relationships quickly.Mainly becasue of a need to “fit in” with everyone else which has bred us into a collectivist society with one dimensional personalities.But those that supress their feelings will ultimatley be mistaken as people in a long lasting solid relationship.
I find that comment by Mya funny “I think all women want a guy who is ready for unconditional love,without just wanting to get into her pants” oh really? but are you prepared to do the same??? Men secretley desire unconditional love also but most are insecure hypocrites who also want someone all for themselves.You use teh word unconditional love but the structure of relationships and marriage is based on conditions and that is what creates all the emotional baggage that has NOTHING to do with love.Jelousy,paranoia,control are traits of some one who is fearfull.My concience told me early on in one relationship to get out soon as possible and unsuprisingly when i tried letting my gf down as sweetly as possible i was threatned and made to feel guilty,my concience was correct and i was right to leave.UNCONDITIONAL love is to love some one no matter what mistakes,actions or decisons they make,your happiness comes from seeing them happy.I made up my mind a long time ago that i would never try to persuade or make a lover feel guilty in walking out on me if thats what she truley wanted or needed to feel happy.How many of us have that attitude towards other lovers/people? not many which is why you hear nothing but non stop vile dross from so many people that say they have been hard done by in a relationship.Its a 2 way thing,many free spirited ppl complain of feeling controlled in a relationship and it is true in our approach to them.I was threatned if i did this or that by both her and her family all before i did anything and all it did was make me feel trapped.Men do it to women and women do it to men this is not an attack on women because there is so much hypocricy in mens views also.Women are madeto feel guilty for having sex with multiple partners and infact slaughter one another for doing so while men once away from the girls pat each other on the back on their sexual conquests while damning women that do the same………….CONTD

By: Mya

Mya — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 15:47:27 +0000

I think all women want a guy who is ready for unconditional love,without just wanting to get into her pants.I’m sorry for the metaphore,but seeing most of my friends’ relationships…It’s the ugly truth.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:53:42 +0000

I love your blog as well. I really look forward to reading it and thank you for writing it. In my opinion love is not eternal. I’m not sure anything is eternal or if it is just as simple as we are here one day and gone the next. I’m leaning toward the here one day theory. I believe in a higher power, but am saddened by the suffering that we are put through while we are here. Some of us more than others. Where is their higher power? What is eternal for them?

New and daring can be very sexy. And if a man wants to protect me, it makes me feel special and even more attracted to him than I would’ve been originally. It is all a fantasy that is sure nice to think about it’s just not very realistic.

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:34:58 +0000

Hi Aprilstar.

Do you believe that your love for your partner continues after you die?

TDM

By: aprilstar

aprilstar — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:49:29 +0000

Mr Daily Mind, I could not disagree more about your statement of love not being forever. Your rationale is that love cannot be forever because we will all eventually die someday. Love is not a tangible element. Even though someone that we love dies, that does not mean that our love for them dies. The love for them goes on and on and on…forever.

If you are the one to survive a loved one’s death, you may move on to fine another or a different person to love but it will NEVER be the same as the love you had for the person that you loved and lost. It can’t be…they are two different people.

My statements will probably not change your mind because it is often said …. “Never give advice. Wise men don’t need it, fools won’t heed it.” I guess I deal in a world where I believe that perhaps my word will influence someone enough to alter their twisted thinking and in this case it is trying to help you, Mr Daily Mind, realize that your concept of love is based on such concrete and finite circumstances and therefore, is not representative of what true love is.

By: Danni

Danni — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:55:40 +0000

Aaron @ Clarifinancial,
I too found the ‘love’ of Edward for Bella a little concerning.
It seemed to me, that this love smacked emotional abuse, uncannily resurfacing throughout bouts of protective kindness, much like in real life. The attention and dependancy Edward receives by keeping Bella clinging and afraid, seemed to serve only his eternally 17 year old ego.
After all, in real life narcissistic/passive-aggressive emotional abusers ability to read and use others with little consideration is often referred to as deficit in emotional maturity. Maybe this ‘emotional-vampire’ never grew up.
However, I can see a certain harm in idealizing Edward and Bella’s relationship as romantic.

Tina,
I completely agree with you that youth will idealize fantasy compared with the harsh facts of real life love and romance.
Here’s a personal story.
I had watched the first ‘Twilight’ with a friend, and thought my (now ex)boyfriend would enjoy it, simply for it’s romantic idealizations and. At the end he turned to me and sighed, “why can I have a romance like that?”
It cut very deep, as I had just packed up my life and moved over 2000 miles to be with him. Yes, immaturity does magnetize towards fantasy.

All in all, If Bella my friend or daughter I would be very concerned over Edward’s hold on her, and I wouldn’t call it ‘love’.

By: Maharet

Maharet — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:56:13 +0000

Oh , my ,I appologize … it seems i forgot to post the link to the video i promised .
Here it is : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wqSF694ZvQc&feature=channel
In case the posts get separated . This video is about the romantic feature of Twilight , the book and a counter-argument to how it is presented .
tnx and so sorry again for being forgetful:)