Comments on: Lessons From India 5: Appreciating the Kindness of Others http://www.thedailymind.com/happiness/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/ Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: marie http://www.thedailymind.com/happiness/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-15098 marie Fri, 19 Jun 2009 21:03:55 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/happy-work/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/#comment-15098 I realize this is an old thread, but I've been surfing the net for articles such as these bc lately at work I keep having conflicts with someone that I CANNOT dismiss, because I have an obligation to collaborate with her in certain tasks. This concept is not only Buddhist, it's also Christian, therefore should not be so foreign to Americans. Jesus taught, love thy enemies...He also said to repay their evil with kindness and this would be like heaping burning coals onto their heads. Anyway, back to the case in hand. My question, is how do we accept our enemies' insults, power abuses, etc. with kindness & patience, without losing our own dignity, and without allowing them to trample all over us and take advantage of us? How do we repay their snubs, insults, etc with kindness in an authentic, quiet and dignified way...meaning not coming off as sarcastic or false? I realize this is an old thread, but I’ve been surfing the net for articles such as these bc lately at work I keep having conflicts with someone that I CANNOT dismiss, because I have an obligation to collaborate with her in certain tasks.
This concept is not only Buddhist, it’s also Christian, therefore should not be so foreign to Americans. Jesus taught, love thy enemies…He also said to repay their evil with kindness and this would be like heaping burning coals onto their heads.
Anyway, back to the case in hand. My question, is how do we accept our enemies’ insults, power abuses, etc. with kindness & patience, without losing our own dignity, and without allowing them to trample all over us and take advantage of us?
How do we repay their snubs, insults, etc with kindness in an authentic, quiet and dignified way…meaning not coming off as sarcastic or false?

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/happiness/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1144 The Daily Minder Wed, 13 Aug 2008 07:50:56 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/happy-work/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/#comment-1144 Hi Brice. Dismissing one's enemies is one thing. It is better to dismiss them in a passive way if the alternative is anger. However, if you can use your relationship with your enemies to create something better that might ultimately benefit yourself and others wouldn't that be a better option? Eagerly awaiting your reply... Hi Brice.

Dismissing one’s enemies is one thing. It is better to dismiss them in a passive way if the alternative is anger. However, if you can use your relationship with your enemies to create something better that might ultimately benefit yourself and others wouldn’t that be a better option?

Eagerly awaiting your reply…

]]> By: Brice http://www.thedailymind.com/happiness/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1143 Brice Wed, 13 Aug 2008 02:13:43 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/happy-work/lessons-from-india-5-appreciating-the-kindness-of-others/#comment-1143 To be honest, this perspective baffles me. At least in the United States, particularly large cities, interaction is for the most part optional. Have you read Here is New York by E.B. White? If you haven't, you should as he puts it much better than I ever could. Essentially, what I'm getting at is that if one so chooses, one can easily dismiss one's enemies altogether. Why suffer the anxieties of unnecessary conflict with others when you have the power to create your life such that they do not exist? To be honest, this perspective baffles me. At least in the United States, particularly large cities, interaction is for the most part optional. Have you read Here is New York by E.B. White? If you haven’t, you should as he puts it much better than I ever could.

Essentially, what I’m getting at is that if one so chooses, one can easily dismiss one’s enemies altogether. Why suffer the anxieties of unnecessary conflict with others when you have the power to create your life such that they do not exist?

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