Comments on: Be Strong: How to Deal With Pain and Hardships in Your Life http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 21:29:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Chorizo http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-24199 Chorizo Mon, 05 Jul 2010 11:16:58 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-24199 I'm turning 31 in a week, and as I've neared the end of my 20's and entered my 30's, more and more, I get severely depressed during what used to be my most looked-forward to day in the year. I don't know if it's cyclical, but since it's happened more as I've gotten older, I think it's also my environment, and where I am in life as compared to where I should be. I don't have any real friends, I haven't had any long-term romantic relationships, I live at home, I've lost family members, and I don't have a steady income. So on the one hand, I ought to be excused for feeling depressed. But on the other hand, my situation is not unique, based on the above comments. And thus, it really is how we cope that matters, not our circumstances. I really agree with Andrea's comment about helping others. Joining a community, or a non-profit takes us out of ourselves, makes me less self-absorbed and self-pitying, and bring me in contact with those who are less fortunate. And there is always someone less fortunate. And very often, they don't suffer from depression. Another suggestion that seems to work for me is do things and experience things with other people. Preferably in the sunshine. Just being outdoors or doing yoga or some sports with a group not only spurs you on to engage in the activity, but also gets you in contact with others. In the end, depression can be defined as, becoming your own worst enemy. I don't deny that it's a serious illness, and one that may be bandied about a bit to carelessly. But more often than not, what we experience is the blues, and brooding over it is like adding gasoline to the proverbial fire. I’m turning 31 in a week, and as I’ve neared the end of my 20’s and entered my 30’s, more and more, I get severely depressed during what used to be my most looked-forward to day in the year. I don’t know if it’s cyclical, but since it’s happened more as I’ve gotten older, I think it’s also my environment, and where I am in life as compared to where I should be. I don’t have any real friends, I haven’t had any long-term romantic relationships, I live at home, I’ve lost family members, and I don’t have a steady income. So on the one hand, I ought to be excused for feeling depressed.

But on the other hand, my situation is not unique, based on the above comments. And thus, it really is how we cope that matters, not our circumstances.

I really agree with Andrea’s comment about helping others. Joining a community, or a non-profit takes us out of ourselves, makes me less self-absorbed and self-pitying, and bring me in contact with those who are less fortunate. And there is always someone less fortunate. And very often, they don’t suffer from depression.
Another suggestion that seems to work for me is do things and experience things with other people. Preferably in the sunshine. Just being outdoors or doing yoga or some sports with a group not only spurs you on to engage in the activity, but also gets you in contact with others.

In the end, depression can be defined as, becoming your own worst enemy. I don’t deny that it’s a serious illness, and one that may be bandied about a bit to carelessly. But more often than not, what we experience is the blues, and brooding over it is like adding gasoline to the proverbial fire.

]]> By: Lily http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-24195 Lily Sun, 04 Jul 2010 02:14:17 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-24195 I'm experiencing a bit of pain right now. I'm sick. What helps me is to have a catharsis of some sort. I will watch a movie that will cause me to experience a variety of emotions, usually the tragedies work best. For some reason, the release of my emotions takes my mind off of the physical pain. I hope this helps someone...Another thing that helps me is acceptance. Instead of fighting the pain or freaking out, I wait for the pain to subside. Advil is also a beautiful invention (for physical pain anyway). Someone said journal writing before...I wholeheartedly agree that it is therapeutic for emotional pain. A lot of the time, talking about your pain to someone helps...I would know I'm particularly sensitive to everything under the sun. I've had to develop strategies to live normally. Best of luck to everyone. I’m experiencing a bit of pain right now. I’m sick. What helps me is to have a catharsis of some sort. I will watch a movie that will cause me to experience a variety of emotions, usually the tragedies work best. For some reason, the release of my emotions takes my mind off of the physical pain. I hope this helps someone…Another thing that helps me is acceptance. Instead of fighting the pain or freaking out, I wait for the pain to subside. Advil is also a beautiful invention (for physical pain anyway). Someone said journal writing before…I wholeheartedly agree that it is therapeutic for emotional pain. A lot of the time, talking about your pain to someone helps…I would know I’m particularly sensitive to everything under the sun. I’ve had to develop strategies to live normally. Best of luck to everyone.

]]> By: Kanchi http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-24003 Kanchi Thu, 13 May 2010 12:19:30 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-24003 Really a nice article !!! Iam one of those who is undergoing the worst part of my life ... hoping i will be out of this soon !! Keep up your good writing ! Really a nice article !!!

Iam one of those who is undergoing the worst part of my life … hoping i will be out of this soon !!

Keep up your good writing !

]]> By: Sharon http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23988 Sharon Mon, 10 May 2010 19:47:25 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23988 Focus on the positive! If you dwell on all of the negative or things that are wrong in your life, not only will you attract more of it, but you will surely continue to feel awful. If you look at the good in every situation, you will start to be grateful and happy, allowing more positive situations to enter into your life. Focus on the positive!

If you dwell on all of the negative or things that are wrong in your life, not only will you attract more of it, but you will surely continue to feel awful.

If you look at the good in every situation, you will start to be grateful and happy, allowing more positive situations to enter into your life.

]]> By: rita http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23980 rita Sun, 09 May 2010 16:38:02 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23980 In my life of 43 years i have found more or less everyone has gone through hardship, but the pain of letting love lost for others is heartbreaking, but Almighty is with me always as my best friend, holding my hand to show me the right path. have faith in God In my life of 43 years i have found more or less everyone has gone through hardship, but the pain of letting love lost for others is heartbreaking, but
Almighty is with me always as my best friend, holding my hand to show me the right path. have faith in God

]]> By: When the Personnel Ticky Tacky hast fallen from the Roost « Sandra Bullocks http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23911 When the Personnel Ticky Tacky hast fallen from the Roost « Sandra Bullocks Fri, 23 Apr 2010 21:23:03 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23911 [...] it was the way it was supposedly to be… and what can we do but staind behind her [SANDRA] no matter hat she s=chooses to do in this life. [...] [...] it was the way it was supposedly to be… and what can we do but staind behind her [SANDRA] no matter hat she s=chooses to do in this life. [...]

]]> By: Muhammad Naz http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23859 Muhammad Naz Mon, 05 Apr 2010 23:44:26 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23859 beautiful pictures are develped from negatives in dark room,so if anything you see darkness in your life it means GOD is developing a beautiful future for you beautiful pictures are develped from negatives in dark room,so if anything you see darkness in your life it means GOD is developing a beautiful future for you

]]> By: Dena http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23849 Dena Thu, 01 Apr 2010 10:13:02 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23849 This is so helpful right now I practically lost all my friends And I just realized that they have always been using me and stepping on me and now they don't want to accept the fact that I'm stronger and that I'm not a people pleaser anymore..its like my life has always been a lie And I feel like even though I have no one anymore I finally have myself which is the most important and I don't feel lonely like I did before This is so helpful right now
I practically lost all my friends
And I just realized that they have always been using me and stepping on me and now they don’t want to accept the fact that I’m stronger and that I’m not a people pleaser anymore..its like my life has always been a lie
And I feel like even though I have no one anymore I finally have myself which is the most important and I don’t feel lonely like I did before

]]> By: BaconWaffle http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23775 BaconWaffle Wed, 03 Mar 2010 02:46:16 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23775 See the funny thing about this is that for some of us, pain and suffering never leaves us. Your theory only works for those that have their pain and suffering diminished but for those of us that live in a world where the good days are defined by whether we can walk up the stairs to get food that day, well.. I guess it just doesn't really work quite the same. See the funny thing about this is that for some of us, pain and suffering never leaves us. Your theory only works for those that have their pain and suffering diminished but for those of us that live in a world where the good days are defined by whether we can walk up the stairs to get food that day, well.. I guess it just doesn’t really work quite the same.

]]> By: Andrea http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/be-strong-how-to-deal-with-pain-and-hardships-in-your-life/comment-page-1/#comment-23765 Andrea Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:04:49 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=628#comment-23765 Sometimes I find it easier to help others than myself....I can get too lost in my own world in my mind or emotions to find a way to think or act differently. But looking at other people's lives, things are often much simpler from the outside and sometimes it's easier to help them see it by just lending a hand or lending an ear. I'm glad to help, even if my own situation is the same. Sometimes it takes me out of myself for just a bit, which can be a relief. Sometimes I find it easier to help others than myself….I can get too lost in my own world in my mind or emotions to find a way to think or act differently. But looking at other people’s lives, things are often much simpler from the outside and sometimes it’s easier to help them see it by just lending a hand or lending an ear. I’m glad to help, even if my own situation is the same. Sometimes it takes me out of myself for just a bit, which can be a relief.

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