Comments on: Growing Up: The Train That Can Never Stop http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/ Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: sani http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-23516 sani Sat, 19 Dec 2009 21:52:40 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-23516 Sorry.Please dont be angry.Just read and try to understand.My parents divorced when I was 4 years old.It was a nasty one.My father caught my mom cheating.I remembered since I was there. I am now 37.This January I looked for and found my mother.I became the baby who lost his mother.Rational thinking went out the door.She showered me with love that I have long forgotten.In the space of 2 months, I spent all of my lifetime saving circa 50k on her and on my younger half bloods.What she wanted she will get.She started telling me to get a divorce so that I (she)can get the proceedings. Of that I was taken aback.But I kept quiet. About a week after that, I found out that she was a hooker.I followed and .......Confronted her telling her that this is nonsense.I am able to financially take care of everything.She slapped me and in my anger I threw her into a swimming pool.I found out that she is very good in psychology.She has influenced my wife and now I am in the courts fighting for my family, my babies. My wife is under her spell.No amount of counselling etc works. I have shown all sighns of depression.I go on without sleep 4-5 days at a stretch.My company layed me off too.I am broke as a hobo.People gives me looks of disgust, desecrate my honour and as such. And I am breaking.I have commited to end this life of mine when i run out of funds.That should not be too long coming.My life is my family.To say that it will hurt them if I do so,yes,I know but my pain is overbearing.I cannot even eat, sleep etc.Find inner calmness? tried but to no avail.I just miss my family too much.Be strong?Until when? I am growing weaker by the minute.Enough tis enough Sorry.Please dont be angry.Just read and try to understand.My parents divorced when I was 4 years old.It was a nasty one.My father caught my mom cheating.I remembered since I was there. I am now 37.This January I looked for and found my mother.I became the baby who lost his mother.Rational thinking went out the door.She showered me with love that I have long forgotten.In the space of 2 months, I spent all of my lifetime saving circa 50k on her and on my younger half bloods.What she wanted she will get.She started telling me to get a divorce so that I (she)can get the proceedings. Of that I was taken aback.But I kept quiet. About a week after that, I found out that she was a hooker.I followed and …….Confronted her telling her that this is nonsense.I am able to financially take care of everything.She slapped me and in my anger I threw her into a swimming pool.I found out that she is very good in psychology.She has influenced my wife and now I am in the courts fighting for my family, my babies. My wife is under her spell.No amount of counselling etc works. I have shown all sighns of depression.I go on without sleep 4-5 days at a stretch.My company layed me off too.I am broke as a hobo.People gives me looks of disgust, desecrate my honour and as such. And I am breaking.I have commited to end this life of mine when i run out of funds.That should not be too long coming.My life is my family.To say that it will hurt them if I do so,yes,I know but my pain is overbearing.I cannot even eat, sleep etc.Find inner calmness? tried but to no avail.I just miss my family too much.Be strong?Until when? I am growing weaker by the minute.Enough tis enough

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-23331 The Daily Minder Sun, 08 Nov 2009 21:44:05 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-23331 Thank you so much for the kind words Lily. It makes it all worth while. Thank you so much for the kind words Lily. It makes it all worth while.

]]> By: Lily http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-23324 Lily Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:44:44 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-23324 This post was amazing. Your ability to put lifes twists and turns into words is beautiful. I often find myself glued to the screen reading your inspirational posts and find everything so much clearer. When things start to weigh me down it is so wonderful to read your blogs about life, love, happiness and growing up. It puts everything into perspective. Thankyou so much for continuing to help so many people with life lessons that will never be forgotten. Much admiration and respect, Lily :) This post was amazing. Your ability to put lifes twists and turns into words is beautiful. I often find myself glued to the screen reading your inspirational posts and find everything so much clearer. When things start to weigh me down it is so wonderful to read your blogs about life, love, happiness and growing up. It puts everything into perspective. Thankyou so much for continuing to help so many people with life lessons that will never be forgotten.

Much admiration and respect,

Lily :)

]]> By: Kara http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-22384 Kara Sun, 20 Sep 2009 14:59:56 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-22384 I've been reading your posts for a while, but never commented before- but I just wanted to say that I was going through a rather difficult time and this specific post helped me gain perspective on the situation and many others I was struggling with. Specifically it was the part where you mentioned that "Things Change" made me realize I must accept the things I can't change. I just wanted to say thank you for the post and will be reading more of your posts in the future. Kara I’ve been reading your posts for a while, but never commented before- but I just wanted to say that I was going through a rather difficult time and this specific post helped me gain perspective on the situation and many others I was struggling with. Specifically it was the part where you mentioned that “Things Change” made me realize I must accept the things I can’t change. I just wanted to say thank you for the post and will be reading more of your posts in the future.

Kara

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-19682 The Daily Minder Thu, 20 Aug 2009 08:25:44 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-19682 Laura. I don't really know what to say other than that you and your son will be in my prayers for as long as you need them. I pray from the bottom of my heart that good news comes your way soon. TDM Laura. I don’t really know what to say other than that you and your son will be in my prayers for as long as you need them.

I pray from the bottom of my heart that good news comes your way soon.

TDM

]]> By: Laura http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-19479 Laura Tue, 18 Aug 2009 03:54:36 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-19479 In the middle of my senior year in highschool, my parents divorced suddenly, my grandma and grandpa died and so did my baby... my kitty when she was being babysat at Christmas time, I was moved twice and was in three schools my senior year. The last one was in a different state far away. I began having panic attacks and anxiety, my parents disowned me once they found "better" and "new families" and had no use for their old kids anymore. My little brother left home early, but I was not so strong. I had never dated even by the age of 21, so my mother invited a man over who ended up raping me. I had trouble calling the police because i was afraid of the phone, and my mother was happy about it when I went to her, crying frantically. That night she and her boyfriend abused me mercilessly but I could not leave the house.. i was a frightened shut-in with agoraphobia. She had a minister come. He could see i had been crying i'm sure, but he didn't ask any questions. I think he could see my mother and her boyfriend would not be moved. My I was shaking and could barely speak by this time, but my mother still forced me to marry my rapist. I cannot tell you what horrors awaited me then, but a couple of weeks later my only child was conceived. I was 22. Of course i thought about better days over and over again all through this. I couldn't do anything but that to survive. Eventually i got away, but was homeless with my infant son and struggled to survive until Saint Clare's Charity housing for homeless women and children took us in. Most of the girls there had drug issues or cps involvements. I was the only one there that did not. However I made fast friends with almost all of the girls and especially the nuns. I received counseling and basically this place proved to be mine and my son's salvation. By the time my son was four, I was diagnosed with a rare intestinal cancer that i have been fighting this whole time. I am alone even now (interestingly, this rare cancer is called the "orphan cancer" because it is so rare and so little funding for it). Alone, except for my now 10 year old son and my 67 year old father who is again divorced and no longer astranged. My doc says I don't have more than two yrs left to live. I'm not fortunate enough to have a future, but I do have a present. I have realized too little too late that the only one who truly loves me unconditionally is God, myself and my son. In the middle of my senior year in highschool, my parents divorced suddenly, my grandma and grandpa died and so did my baby… my kitty when she was being babysat at Christmas time, I was moved twice and was in three schools my senior year. The last one was in a different state far away. I began having panic attacks and anxiety, my parents disowned me once they found “better” and “new families” and had no use for their old kids anymore. My little brother left home early, but I was not so strong. I had never dated even by the age of 21, so my mother invited a man over who ended up raping me. I had trouble calling the police because i was afraid of the phone, and my mother was happy about it when I went to her, crying frantically. That night she and her boyfriend abused me mercilessly but I could not leave the house.. i was a frightened shut-in with agoraphobia. She had a minister come. He could see i had been crying i’m sure, but he didn’t ask any questions. I think he could see my mother and her boyfriend would not be moved. My I was shaking and could barely speak by this time, but my mother still forced me to marry my rapist. I cannot tell you what horrors awaited me then, but a couple of weeks later my only child was conceived.

I was 22.

Of course i thought about better days over and over again all through this. I couldn’t do anything but that to survive. Eventually i got away, but was homeless with my infant son and struggled to survive until Saint Clare’s Charity housing for homeless women and children took us in. Most of the girls there had drug issues or cps involvements. I was the only one there that did not.
However I made fast friends with almost all of the girls and especially the nuns. I received counseling and basically this place proved to be mine and my son’s salvation.

By the time my son was four, I was diagnosed with a rare intestinal cancer that i have been fighting this whole time. I am alone even now (interestingly, this rare cancer is called the “orphan cancer” because it is so rare and so little funding for it). Alone, except for my now 10 year old son and my 67 year old father who is again divorced and no longer astranged. My doc says I don’t have more than two yrs left to live.

I’m not fortunate enough to have a future, but I do have a present. I have realized too little too late that the only one who truly loves me unconditionally is God, myself and my son.

]]> By: Zebra Lamp Shade http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-19133 Zebra Lamp Shade Thu, 13 Aug 2009 13:41:06 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-19133 That is so good to know! I am glad people care enough to do something helpful in this situation. That is so good to know! I am glad people care enough to do something helpful in this situation.

]]> By: Mark http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-18681 Mark Thu, 06 Aug 2009 06:56:01 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-18681 Thank you DM. Thank you DM.

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-18494 The Daily Minder Tue, 04 Aug 2009 05:15:06 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-18494 Hi Aimee. I was in your situation not long ago and I can guarantee your thoughts about moving are much worse than moving itself. I was so down about leaving my mother and brother but, in the end, it turned out to be a great decision. Moving out gives you a lot of freedom and you grow a lot as a person. I guarantee you will enjoy this. Also, when you go back to see your parents you will have a much more focused and enjoyable time. Don't worry. Embrace it. TDM Hi Aimee.

I was in your situation not long ago and I can guarantee your thoughts about moving are much worse than moving itself. I was so down about leaving my mother and brother but, in the end, it turned out to be a great decision.

Moving out gives you a lot of freedom and you grow a lot as a person. I guarantee you will enjoy this. Also, when you go back to see your parents you will have a much more focused and enjoyable time.

Don’t worry. Embrace it.

TDM

]]> By: Dayne | TheHappySelf.com http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/growing-up-the-train-that-can-never-stop/comment-page-1/#comment-18478 Dayne | TheHappySelf.com Mon, 03 Aug 2009 23:54:20 +0000 http://www.thedailymind.com/?p=817#comment-18478 What a fantastic post. I think the key thing is to learn to let go of the past, stay present, and be excited about things in the future. In many ways, we don't have to grow up. We can still go swing. We can still go swim. We can still be silly. Growing up is simply a state of mind. :) I really love your blog, very good job! Dayne What a fantastic post. I think the key thing is to learn to let go of the past, stay present, and be excited about things in the future. In many ways, we don’t have to grow up. We can still go swing. We can still go swim. We can still be silly.

Growing up is simply a state of mind. :)

I really love your blog, very good job!

Dayne

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