Comments on: How to Deal With Problem Family Members Without Losing Your Mind

By: Kyle

Kyle — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 07:07:22 +0000

The only emotion in life I am capable of feeling is Anger or not at all so arguments I always lose.

I have some sort of opposite curse where people will always respond opposite of my true intention so I am trying to deal with people as little as possible by copping out when I do realize I am getting angry.

It’s best to just let the other person rant as defending myself is useles.

No good comes out of humanity though their are exceptions but that is very rare.

I cannot wait till earth closes up shop.

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 01:03:21 +0000

No I don’t think it is right. Kids need to be kids. Perhaps you should get some help from your family?

By: ceci

ceci — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 19:28:06 +0000

my husband is to hard on my kid hi is just 3 years old , and my husband wants him to be a man allready and do things he is not supost to do yet and we are arguing about it allways what shoul i do

By: ceci

ceci — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 19:18:03 +0000

i am going to an argumen with my husband because he is to hard on our son he is just 3 years old and he wants my son to know everything allready , and be a man at this age do you think is right ?

By: Ivory

Ivory — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 10:00:02 +0000

Thank you for this post, I will really try to separate my brother from his behavior. The problem I am having, is that he must control everything and everyone around him. He doesn’t trust that we can make our own decisions, and he feels that he can do or say no wrong. It is acceptable for him to ask for help when it is of high inconvenience, ( I’m sleeping, at work, sick,) but if anyone asks him to help we are useless with out him. A small example: when I take mom grocery shopping, she asks him to help carry all the bags inside.(He doesn’t live with her, but he eats all his meals there and stays there during the day.) He refuses to help stating, “my sister can do it.” Well my mom asked him to go to the storage unit to pull something out of it for her. So he went and did that, ( he is the only one with the code,) but when he got them here, he called my fiance to carry them in for him (fiance and I live next door.) I answered the phone and told him that he was on his way to work, but that made my brother angry and he accused my fiance of being selfish. The time I did try to sit down with him, and show him how this is affecting my attitude and relationship with him, it turned into a shouting match. (And also turned into me being very immature and throwing cupcakes at him from across the room.)He is my brother and I love him, but I can not spend more than minutes with him. Honestly… the way things are going, I might end up loving him less and less. THIS is what scares me. He can be so hurtful. He says its all in joking fun, and when we tell him how it hurts, he says we need to lighten up. I’m sorry, but telling my mother that she is fat and ugly, is NOT a laughing matter. I could keep going on and on about this and the things that really really upset me. I think I have listed enough however lol.
-Ivory

By: kadija

kadija — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 08:04:58 +0000

I have a big issue with my mum lately , it even end up with me being in hospital with a breakdown. I got married since 10 years now, live abroad but my mum and mother-in-;aw live the same coty. My mother in-law is far from being an angel but we keep our distances and respect me and her, but the problem is with my family, each time I call mum she has to bring my mother in-law in the subject if not the first subject, of course a mean way, critisising and all. Finaly I had enough of that subject, waisitng my calls money and psychics on that silly and somehow hurting issue (she is still the granny of my kids isnt she) I said through my sister to tell my mum to stop it , I dont care a bit about what she would tell me and enough is enough. The result was alarming. I have been attacked by phone and emails by all my sisters accusing me of how could I , defend her , she is not worth it. I treid to explain that thats was not my intention and they are missing the whole point. but it got worst they sent me an email chasing me from my sister wedding which will take place next month and I bought the tickets already. their point is if I prefer my inlwas I shoudl go to them instead. I was in a terrible shock and still is and I intend never to see them all my life again. they are so unfair and not worth what I did all my life with them. Iam so sad and heart broken and coufused.
K

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 06:28:56 +0000

BL I imagine it bothers you so much because he is your brother. For some reason family members affect us so much more than other people.

I really don’t know what advice to offer you other than to try and be compassionate. Remember that you brother is suffering and probably regrets acting the way he did. Also, have compassion for yourself – it is okay to feel bad about this and don’t expect it to get better right away.

Try reaching out to your brother gently and gradually. Maybe a phone call or an email just to check in and say that you miss him. Time often heals these wounds.

Good luck.

TDM

By: BL

BL — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 22:31:55 +0000

I have a brother who attacked me physicially 6 years ago. I was 30 and he was 28. For no reason. Since then I’ve been weird around him. I cannot stand him. He’s fake. He belittles our parents. He treats others with no respect (and me, obviously). He held me in the air by my throat and told me he hated me and wanted me to die.

Since then I’ve had a son. He’s ignoring us totally now.

Why does it bother me so?

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By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 06:34:58 +0000

haha – let us know how it goes!