Comments on: How to Stand Up to Your Boss (Without Losing Your Job) http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/ Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: dwayne http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-24422 dwayne Sun, 12 Sep 2010 17:28:38 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-24422 We all need to keep our jobs but a lot of these insights to me is pretty much kissing the boss' ass. Just be straight up and go over their head when you know what they are all about so they can see that that they too have a boss over their head as well. We all need to keep our jobs but a lot of these insights to me is pretty much kissing the boss’ ass. Just be straight up and go over their head when you know what they are all about so they can see that that they too have a boss over their head as well.

]]> By: Matthew Greene http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-24359 Matthew Greene Wed, 25 Aug 2010 00:54:48 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-24359 I don't think that you should ever go out and pick a fight with your boss, but never back down when you are being attacked by a boss or coworker. "Picking your battles" when your being attacked is just an excuse for not defending yourself. Never try to reason with lunacy. Don't spend too much time over thinking your argument.There are two key parts to your argument 1) The outcome you want 2) The consequences that will follow a failure to comply "if you call me stupid again you will be creating all these reports yourself until you find a replacement!". Simplicity is key. Never use your emotions because your attacker rarely truly cares how you feel inside "It hurts me when you call me stupid". See how silly that sounds. Know when to speak quietly, but DO NOT default to that. Some of the most influential people who ever lived often spoke with fire and passion. Just be sure to speak directly and with control. Eye contact is a must. Finally some people only respond to one of the most primal feelings: fear. I mean isn't this what you are responding to on a daily basis...fear of confrontation or losing your job. Find a new job and quit! More than likely your current employer will be fine without you. They will find a replacement for you and your boss will continue to be a jackass of a boss....but you wont be on the receiving end any longer. At the end of the day the only person you have to live with is yourself....... I don’t think that you should ever go out and pick a fight with your boss, but never back down when you are being attacked by a boss or coworker. “Picking your battles” when your being attacked is just an excuse for not defending yourself.

Never try to reason with lunacy. Don’t spend too much time over thinking your argument.There are two key parts to your argument 1) The outcome you want 2) The consequences that will follow a failure to comply “if you call me stupid again you will be creating all these reports yourself until you find a replacement!”. Simplicity is key.

Never use your emotions because your attacker rarely truly cares how you feel inside “It hurts me when you call me stupid”. See how silly that sounds.

Know when to speak quietly, but DO NOT default to that. Some of the most influential people who ever lived often spoke with fire and passion. Just be sure to speak directly and with control. Eye contact is a must.

Finally some people only respond to one of the most primal feelings: fear. I mean isn’t this what you are responding to on a daily basis…fear of confrontation or losing your job.

Find a new job and quit! More than likely your current employer will be fine without you. They will find a replacement for you and your boss will continue to be a jackass of a boss….but you wont be on the receiving end any longer.

At the end of the day the only person you have to live with is yourself…….

]]> By: manthos http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-24336 manthos Thu, 19 Aug 2010 20:09:30 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-24336 Yeah that all fine and all. But all bosses are cunts in the end, when shit hits the fan its the worker who gets it in the ass. Supervisors are even worse sucking all the sht from the boss and passing it on to the employees like father fuckin Christmas. ONCE MORE BOSSE ARE WANKERS. FUCK EM ! Yeah that all fine and all. But all bosses are cunts in the end, when shit hits the fan its the worker who gets it in the ass. Supervisors are even worse sucking all the sht from the boss and passing it on to the employees like father fuckin Christmas.

ONCE MORE BOSSE ARE WANKERS. FUCK EM !

]]> By: Renee http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-23774 Renee Tue, 02 Mar 2010 23:18:37 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-23774 And what do you do when the one who does the snapping and yelling and being unreasonable is your boss? We have to walk on egg shells when talking to her. My colleagues and I have tried to talk to her calmly. We have given examples and we have had meeting, show professionalism. Still she gets upset and we have gotten yelled at and insulted. What do you do in this case? And what do you do when the one who does the snapping and yelling and being unreasonable is your boss? We have to walk on egg shells when talking to her. My colleagues and I have tried to talk to her calmly. We have given examples and we have had meeting, show professionalism. Still she gets upset and we have gotten yelled at and insulted. What do you do in this case?

]]> By: Phil http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-23311 Phil Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:05:46 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-23311 The last part about thinking before doing is a slippery slope. If you think you will overdo it. Therefore, you will hesitate and you will not go through with it. Even if you do it will show. You should do it on a whim. Give some of his/her own medicine. The last part about thinking before doing is a slippery slope. If you think you will overdo it. Therefore, you will hesitate and you will not go through with it. Even if you do it will show. You should do it on a whim. Give some of his/her own medicine.

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-1150 The Daily Minder Thu, 14 Aug 2008 00:14:31 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-1150 Good luck Millie! Good luck Millie!

]]> By: Millie http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-1067 Millie Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:43:28 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-1067 I'm so glad I found this today. I have a meeting tonight with my boss and the higher ups about being harrassed by my boss. I think this has really helped a lot in how I'm going to manage and present myself tonight. I’m so glad I found this today. I have a meeting tonight with my boss and the higher ups about being harrassed by my boss. I think this has really helped a lot in how I’m going to manage and present myself tonight.

]]> By: shivani http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-918 shivani Thu, 26 Jun 2008 09:04:46 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-918 my colleague is really troubling me these days, he gives his petty works to, esp when our boss is not around. The only reason i am scared of stading up to him is coz he gets really snappy, would pass unnecessary comments when in bad mood. even by boss (they both were same batch guys) is at loss of words. he has been told so many times to mind his behaviour, then he gets really nasty and insults us. my colleague is really troubling me these days, he gives his petty works to, esp when our boss is not around. The only reason i am scared of stading up to him is coz he gets really snappy, would pass unnecessary comments when in bad mood. even by boss (they both were same batch guys) is at loss of words. he has been told so many times to mind his behaviour, then he gets really nasty and insults us.

]]> By: Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matters http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-840 Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matters Tue, 17 Jun 2008 03:25:27 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-840 Not being intimidated or afraid is hard, but really needed when you stand up to your boss. They need to know you mean business. I've never stood up to a bully of a boss even though I have had plenty of them. I wish that I had and been able to read this post before I did. It does a great job laying it all out. Not being intimidated or afraid is hard, but really needed when you stand up to your boss. They need to know you mean business. I’ve never stood up to a bully of a boss even though I have had plenty of them. I wish that I had and been able to read this post before I did. It does a great job laying it all out.

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/comment-page-1/#comment-823 The Daily Minder Sat, 14 Jun 2008 23:16:25 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/how-to/how-to-stand-up-to-your-boss-without-losing-your-job/#comment-823 Chris - thanks for that management insight! It's nice to know that some tactics do work with you bosses. TDM Chris – thanks for that management insight! It’s nice to know that some tactics do work with you bosses.

TDM

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