Comments on: The Art of Forgiveness: How to Learn to Forgive Yourself and Others http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/ Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: sukhbir singh http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-24512 sukhbir singh Fri, 05 Nov 2010 09:53:25 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-24512 sir i heartly congratulate you for such a "instant awakening thoughts". one can hardly find a better suggesions and thoughts to get rid of acidic feelings of revenge. when we do not forget and forgive a person who hurted us , we want revenge in deep of our heart and it starts bringing a hoard of other allies to make us feel living in a horrible mental hell. some where i read " jealousy is a poison that we drink in the hope that someone else ( to whom we hate), will die" thank you so much. sir
i heartly congratulate you for such a “instant awakening thoughts”. one can hardly find a better suggesions and thoughts to get rid of acidic feelings of revenge. when we do not forget and forgive a person who hurted us , we want revenge in deep of our heart and it starts bringing a hoard of other allies to make us feel living in a horrible mental hell. some where i read ” jealousy is a poison that we drink in the hope that someone else ( to whom we hate), will die”
thank you so much.

]]> By: DV http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-23878 DV Thu, 15 Apr 2010 15:07:52 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-23878 I recently hurt a really good friend and betrayed her trust. I asked for her forgiveness and she said that I will never be forgiven. She also went as far as to post what had happened on a social site. Now I have to explain myself to all of our mutual friends. The embarassment and shame is killing me. I dont know what to do and don't know if I can forgive myself. I need advice. Please. I recently hurt a really good friend and betrayed her trust. I asked for her forgiveness and she said that I will never be forgiven. She also went as far as to post what had happened on a social site. Now I have to explain myself to all of our mutual friends. The embarassment and shame is killing me. I dont know what to do and don’t know if I can forgive myself. I need advice. Please.

]]> By: noel http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-23685 noel Mon, 08 Feb 2010 05:56:57 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-23685 I have no trouble forgiving others. I can't seem to forgive myself. I have no trouble forgiving others. I can’t seem to forgive myself.

]]> By: John Walker http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-23506 John Walker Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:24:08 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-23506 Forgiveness? What happened to 'an eye for an eye?' Why is 'What goes around comes around' an excellent saying. Lots of things happen to good people every day and careless bad people get away with nasty deeds all the time. What about psychopaths who feel no remorse? They ain't going to be worried about whether they are smiling on their death bed or not. The world is full of power mad snakes in suits, wanker bankers and corrupt hypocritical politicians. Are you saying we should forgive them all their misdemeanors? Forgiveness? What happened to ‘an eye for an eye?’

Why is ‘What goes around comes around’ an excellent saying. Lots of things happen to good people every day and careless bad people get away with nasty deeds all the time.

What about psychopaths who feel no remorse? They ain’t going to be worried about whether they are smiling on their death bed or not.

The world is full of power mad snakes in suits, wanker bankers and corrupt hypocritical politicians. Are you saying we should forgive them all their misdemeanors?

]]> By: TJ http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-17403 TJ Sat, 18 Jul 2009 20:39:06 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-17403 This was great and just what I needed. In two weeks, a very good friend has wronged me and lied to me. I accepted his apology, but hadn't forgiven him. As I read this, I began texting him to explain that I hadn't forgiven him and in all honesty, it was making me sick. I hadn't really eaten well and had lost plenty of sleep. I read one part of this that stated, maybe no one was wrong and maybe it was simply a mistake and that's what I shared with him. He knew that he had hurt me and from what I'd heard, he looked like hell and no one knew why. Anyway, he just called and we talked it all over and decided to let it go. No one is perfect afterall, and I'm sure that I've done someone wrong unintentionally and may not even realize it. This was great and just what I needed. In two weeks, a very good friend has wronged me and lied to me. I accepted his apology, but hadn’t forgiven him. As I read this, I began texting him to explain that I hadn’t forgiven him and in all honesty, it was making me sick. I hadn’t really eaten well and had lost plenty of sleep. I read one part of this that stated, maybe no one was wrong and maybe it was simply a mistake and that’s what I shared with him. He knew that he had hurt me and from what I’d heard, he looked like hell and no one knew why. Anyway, he just called and we talked it all over and decided to let it go. No one is perfect afterall, and I’m sure that I’ve done someone wrong unintentionally and may not even realize it.

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3141 The Daily Minder Thu, 23 Oct 2008 22:55:50 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-3141 BJ that is a great point about forgiveness being part of the school curriculum. I have often thought ethics needs to be taught in junior and middle school more than it is. I'll check that book out. I have to confess I haven't heard of it! Thanks BJ. BJ that is a great point about forgiveness being part of the school curriculum. I have often thought ethics needs to be taught in junior and middle school more than it is.

I’ll check that book out. I have to confess I haven’t heard of it!

Thanks BJ.

]]> By: BJ http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3129 BJ Thu, 23 Oct 2008 16:48:16 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-3129 Wonderful post - forgiveness should be part of every school curriculum (as should respect). I read a fantastic book years ago that I highly recommend: "Forgiveness," by Dr. Sidney B. Simon and Suzanne Simon. I hope others find it as enlightening and helpful as I did. Live, love, learn, forgive... Wonderful post – forgiveness should be part of every school curriculum (as should respect). I read a fantastic book years ago that I highly recommend: “Forgiveness,” by Dr. Sidney B. Simon and Suzanne Simon. I hope others find it as enlightening and helpful as I did. Live, love, learn, forgive…

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3067 The Daily Minder Tue, 21 Oct 2008 22:46:26 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-3067 Soulshine, what a great story of friendship and forgiveness! You two should sit down and watch Kite Runner together! Thank you for leaving your first comment. TDM Soulshine, what a great story of friendship and forgiveness! You two should sit down and watch Kite Runner together!

Thank you for leaving your first comment.

TDM

]]> By: soulshine http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3052 soulshine Tue, 21 Oct 2008 14:16:28 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-3052 I can personally attest that forgiveness, and being forgiving, is very rewarding. In our teenage years, I had a friend who hurt me very badly. It was easy to be angry with her, and I nurtured the pain in my heart. Soon, though, I realized how much I missed her, and wanted to continue our friendship despite the hurt. I knew that her actions did not necessarily reflect on her essential nature - she had just made a poor decision. We spoke; we cried; I forgave her actions. Nearly ten years later, I can not imagine my life without this friend in it. We have grown together spiritually and been there for each other in hard times. She is a soul sister, and I am grateful to share a path with her. Had I allowed our paths to diverge at that time, I wouldn't be quite the same person that I am to this day. Forgiveness is and art, and not always easy. However, it is always rewarding, always. Anger, heartache - these emotions can be apprpriate for a time. But they are not meant to be carried with us, weighing us down. They are meant to be released. To forgive another is to lay your own burden down... TDM, I have long enjoyed your posts. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. I am glad I finally took the time to comment. I send my gratitude to you. I can personally attest that forgiveness, and being forgiving, is very rewarding.
In our teenage years, I had a friend who hurt me very badly. It was easy to be angry with her, and I nurtured the pain in my heart. Soon, though, I realized how much I missed her, and wanted to continue our friendship despite the hurt. I knew that her actions did not necessarily reflect on her essential nature – she had just made a poor decision. We spoke; we cried; I forgave her actions.
Nearly ten years later, I can not imagine my life without this friend in it. We have grown together spiritually and been there for each other in hard times. She is a soul sister, and I am grateful to share a path with her. Had I allowed our paths to diverge at that time, I wouldn’t be quite the same person that I am to this day.
Forgiveness is and art, and not always easy. However, it is always rewarding, always. Anger, heartache – these emotions can be apprpriate for a time. But they are not meant to be carried with us, weighing us down. They are meant to be released. To forgive another is to lay your own burden down…

TDM, I have long enjoyed your posts. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. I am glad I finally took the time to comment. I send my gratitude to you.

]]> By: Mickey http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-art-of-forgiveness-how-to-learn-to-forgive-yourself-and-others/comment-page-1/#comment-3048 Mickey Tue, 21 Oct 2008 13:30:18 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=298#comment-3048 What I like about this blog, is that the people here seem to be "regular joe's and jill's". Its a blog about bringing the mind under your control and yet living your life outside of a cave. It also seems that there are people who comment here that are on similar journeys, some further along than others, and I think a web community where people could help each other out would be very handy. Teaching is often the best way to really learn something. So it would probably benefit those further along to help beginners as well. A win/win We already see some good discussion in the comments, so it tells me that people are hungry for discussion. Having a quality "tea shop" where people could come together reliably and share ideas is also a good way to keep readership high. With all that said, perhaps there is already such a place online that I've not found yet. If there is, and all the commenters tend to go there already then perhaps there's no point. But if there isn't, I'd say its a potential niche to be filled, which is what the web is all about, finding that niche and filling it. Who better to do it than the Minder? The trick is keeping a meaningful place that isn't overrun by idiots like many forums can become. The comments haven't been though, so I imagine the forum would stay pretty good as well. For me I guess, the web is full of forums already, so in order to be useful, it has to be purpose driven, I think that your blog fills that niche, and an accompanying forum would season it that much more. Hey plus, it could be an incubator for ideas for your next postings. Hehe, using your readers for ideas for your own posts. That's almost diabolical *cue evil genius laugh here* So there's my two cents on it :-) ~Mickey What I like about this blog, is that the people here seem to be “regular joe’s and jill’s”. Its a blog about bringing the mind under your control and yet living your life outside of a cave. It also seems that there are people who comment here that are on similar journeys, some further along than others, and I think a web community where people could help each other out would be very handy. Teaching is often the best way to really learn something. So it would probably benefit those further along to help beginners as well. A win/win We already see some good discussion in the comments, so it tells me that people are hungry for discussion. Having a quality “tea shop” where people could come together reliably and share ideas is also a good way to keep readership high.

With all that said, perhaps there is already such a place online that I’ve not found yet. If there is, and all the commenters tend to go there already then perhaps there’s no point. But if there isn’t, I’d say its a potential niche to be filled, which is what the web is all about, finding that niche and filling it. Who better to do it than the Minder? The trick is keeping a meaningful place that isn’t overrun by idiots like many forums can become. The comments haven’t been though, so I imagine the forum would stay pretty good as well.

For me I guess, the web is full of forums already, so in order to be useful, it has to be purpose driven, I think that your blog fills that niche, and an accompanying forum would season it that much more. Hey plus, it could be an incubator for ideas for your next postings. Hehe, using your readers for ideas for your own posts. That’s almost diabolical *cue evil genius laugh here*

So there’s my two cents on it :-)

~Mickey

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