Comments on: The Perfect Handshake: How to Shake Hands Like JFK and Make an Impression http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/ Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: When You Shake Hands. . . Really Shake Hands! « Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-25058 When You Shake Hands. . . Really Shake Hands! « Networking HQ BLOG with Larry James Wed, 18 May 2011 14:22:56 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-25058 [...] BONUS Article: The Perfect Handshake: How to Shake Hands Like JFK and Make an Impression [...] [...] BONUS Article: The Perfect Handshake: How to Shake Hands Like JFK and Make an Impression [...]

]]> By: x http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-24171 x Sun, 20 Jun 2010 15:13:35 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-24171 There are some ridiculous statements in this article. "Your handshake speaks volumes about who you are as a person". Like hell it does. No, what it should say is that "Some people will extrapolate who you are as a person based on your handshake", or something like that. What I'm saying is that your handshake does <i>not</i> necessarily reflect "who you are as a person". If it did, we wouldn't need articles like this, would we? Think about it: If I read this article and come out of it with a whole different type of handshake, have I changed as a person? Or have I merely learned a different way to shake hands? Ah, gotcha. Also, the article doesn't seem to mention the offering of a handshake. By this I mean... Who should offer to shake hands first? I was taught that the person of lower authority should wait for the other person to offer their hand first; in this way, they were being deferential. There are some ridiculous statements in this article. “Your handshake speaks volumes about who you are as a person”. Like hell it does. No, what it should say is that “Some people will extrapolate who you are as a person based on your handshake”, or something like that.

What I’m saying is that your handshake does not necessarily reflect “who you are as a person”. If it did, we wouldn’t need articles like this, would we? Think about it: If I read this article and come out of it with a whole different type of handshake, have I changed as a person? Or have I merely learned a different way to shake hands?

Ah, gotcha.

Also, the article doesn’t seem to mention the offering of a handshake. By this I mean… Who should offer to shake hands first? I was taught that the person of lower authority should wait for the other person to offer their hand first; in this way, they were being deferential.

]]> By: kowalski http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-23907 kowalski Thu, 22 Apr 2010 07:29:43 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-23907 Good article. I noticed that since becoming older and more confident / dominant I rarely shake hands without involving my left hand in some way. I find it seals the nature of your relationship, just in case there was any doubt caused by slippage, the other trying to crush your hand, the other gripping to early (i.e. around the fingers rather than the palm) etc. To Robert, "the science of Neuro Linguistic programming" is certainly not a science, despite its science-y sounding name and psuedo-scientific principles. Don't be fooled. Peace, kowalski Good article. I noticed that since becoming older and more confident / dominant I rarely shake hands without involving my left hand in some way. I find it seals the nature of your relationship, just in case there was any doubt caused by slippage, the other trying to crush your hand, the other gripping to early (i.e. around the fingers rather than the palm) etc.

To Robert,
“the science of Neuro Linguistic programming” is certainly not a science, despite its science-y sounding name and psuedo-scientific principles. Don’t be fooled.

Peace,

kowalski

]]> By: kristin http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-23430 kristin Sun, 29 Nov 2009 20:33:53 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-23430 I am going to use this in 2 HS classes. My students NEED this information and you have the right mix of history and how-to. We'll be practicing all quarter. Thank you! I am going to use this in 2 HS classes. My students NEED this information and you have the right mix of history and how-to. We’ll be practicing all quarter.
Thank you!

]]> By: Diana http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-10721 Diana Sun, 22 Mar 2009 06:59:41 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-10721 I want to add that women in particular should study up on these tips. As a young woman myself, I've actually been complimented a number of times on my handshake (by other women and men) and I've found that a confident, good handshake really seals a good first impression, especially in professional settings. Robert -- I hadn't heard of kinesthetic type until I read your comment. After reading up about it, I feel less crazy about my learning style and my tendency to gaze at objects, rather than in people's eyes, while having a conversation. I frequently must remind myself to make eye contact. I want to add that women in particular should study up on these tips. As a young woman myself, I’ve actually been complimented a number of times on my handshake (by other women and men) and I’ve found that a confident, good handshake really seals a good first impression, especially in professional settings.

Robert — I hadn’t heard of kinesthetic type until I read your comment. After reading up about it, I feel less crazy about my learning style and my tendency to gaze at objects, rather than in people’s eyes, while having a conversation. I frequently must remind myself to make eye contact.

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-5999 The Daily Minder Mon, 12 Jan 2009 06:01:22 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-5999 Great comments Robert. Thanks for pointing the one about eye contact out. TDM Great comments Robert. Thanks for pointing the one about eye contact out.

TDM

]]> By: Robert http://www.thedailymind.com/how-to/the-perfect-handshake-how-to-shake-hands-like-jfk-and-make-an-impression/comment-page-1/#comment-5249 Robert Tue, 30 Dec 2008 16:06:31 +0000 http://thedailymind.com/?p=587#comment-5249 This was a great article. There are a couple of things that need further consideration in order for this to be a complete treatise on a good handshake. First, the points made are most relevant in WESTERN culture. For example, when meeting people in Japan for example; looking people directly in the eyes is a sign of crude manners. Its thought to be too personal, rude and a sign of arrogance. So,if you are going to visit countries in southeast asia, study local customs beforehand. Also, while avoiding eye contact may be a sign of guilt or of an untrustworthy character; it may also simply be the case that the person is a "kinesthetic type". Thanks to brain research and the science of Neuro Linguistic programming, we are aware that people access their brain centers differently . If asked a question , a kinesthetic type will generally look away or look down-particularly if the aim of the question is to determine how the person FEELS- about something. Thanks for allowing me to comment. Robert This was a great article. There are a couple of things that need further consideration in order for this to be a complete treatise on a good handshake.

First, the points made are most relevant in WESTERN culture. For example, when meeting people in Japan for example; looking people directly in the eyes is a sign of crude manners. Its thought to be too personal, rude and a sign of arrogance. So,if you are going to visit countries in southeast asia, study local customs beforehand.

Also, while avoiding eye contact may be a sign of guilt or of an untrustworthy character; it may also simply be the case that the person is a “kinesthetic type”.
Thanks to brain research and the science of Neuro Linguistic programming, we are aware that people access their brain centers differently . If asked a question , a kinesthetic type will generally look away or look down-particularly if the aim of the question is to determine how the person FEELS- about something.

Thanks for allowing me to comment.

Robert

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