Comments on: 5 Things That Are Holding You Back in Life

By: C

Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:27:03 +0000

i really liked this… kinda gave me motivation to do what i want. currnetly im a senior and about to graduate from hghschool and i have to find something to study. the one that got me was fear, i have that from what i might study. ive never acted before but have grown to like it a lot in the past year i wasnt sure if i wanted to pursue a career because of fear, but this gave me some motivation to pursue it. thanks

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 10:28:37 +0000

Thanks for the added points Paul. I hope to see you around the blog some more.

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 10:27:43 +0000

He did. Said again and again that the purpose of life is to help others. He said every word, thought and deed should be done with the motivation of helping someone else.

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 10:26:55 +0000

This is an amazing comment. I truly hope you make the right decision and then have no regrets about it.

Good luck.

TDM

By: grandpa

grandpa — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 09:47:43 +0000

Hello,
Did that yogi told that what is the purpose of life?
This question has been haunting me since years but I still can’t find any answers to it.

By: Paul

Paul — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 23:05:27 +0000

Short but true.

I would add:
1. Laziness (lack of motivation) – most of the people don’t think about their distant future. They think about current week or month and that’s all. Even if they have some motivation to do something it soon disappears. I don’t know how to effectively motivate myself yet (and others) so I decided not to motivate myself but change my habits and this helps me to complete my goals almost automatically…
2. Bad habits – most of the people do the same things everyday and it often leads nowhere. I mean they stay on the same level and usually they are not happy about this level. They want more. Changing habits isn’t an easy task but I personally managed to change some of them. I stopped being unproductive most of the time and started to do things BUT it doesn’t solve all of my problems so it’s not enough or my new habits are still bad. Also, I have no idea what should I do to complete some of my goals (there are a few strange ones).
3. Scepticism – that’s also something that holds me back. I know that I should do something to achieve something (or even only try) but in some cases my brain tells me “don’t do it because… “. Also, other people tend to say something like that about my ideas.

Fear and other emotions are something I personally can’t go through. That’s the strongest barrier so it’s good choice to place it as number 1. I can’t control my fear and other emotions in 100%.
Example: Even if I know that I shouldn’t think about my enemies all the time (that’s good example where emotions are over logical thinking) I can’t control it. I’m thinking about past happenings and about them. I’m wasting time.
Arrogance, attachment, dogma, money – that’s something easier to fight with for me and I don’t have many problems about it.

Loved your article. I really like psychology and I’m looking forward to seeing more great articles from you!

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By: yalda

yalda — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:22:43 +0000

I always pursue your posts. It may seems strange to your readers, but as a matter of fact, studying such free minds like yours and your readers works out just like fresh air for me. I come from a country in which thought is forbidden. Here they arrest all the opposed publications and webs. The last election was an obvious cheating and all the opposed gatherings were suppressed. My cosine is arrested since almost 20 days ago while his family is absolutely unaware of him. The main theme I am trying to point out is that my family is a small model of the same pattern of the Islamic Republic? in Iran.
It is very important or better to say soothing for me to talk to you who basically think and live differently. My parents believe that girls must marry, the sooner the better, if not, they must fully obey their parents, especially their father. Although I have come to terms with them in almost any subject material, like the style of my clothing, my relations, etc, my father has threatened to kill me if I refuse the absolute submission. I am graduated in physics at the 2nd ranking university in my field in Iran and I was accepted in the entrance exam of master degree at another 2nd ranking university in the field of physics. I love music, while I m not even allowed to audio it. Just imagine an atheist under a veil (chador). Now I am in a difficult dilemma. Selecting the master degree, beside all my other aims exactly means leaving my family for the rest of my life. I must chose between to choices: 1- Staying with my family in a town (Qom) with traditional fossilized culture which I hate, forgetting all my goals for ever. And 2- leaving them for ever, assuming if I have no family in the world, finishing my graduate studying, migrating to liberal democracy societies, learning ballet, violin, playing my favorite sports, selecting my own friends, setting my relations..
I have almost taken my decision, but there is a hidden fear inside me which I cannot deny it wholly. I am fearful of being supposed to be evil if I leave my family for ever, although they have even threatened me to killing. I know logically such a fear is nonsense, but I don’t know where it comes from myself.
Sorry for the very lengthy comment. Wishes!

By: somebody

somebody — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 22:39:10 +0000

I believe that most of what you mentioned will push you forward, but wait……..why we are so thirsty to be at the front to be the best to be the ones with wealth? I think this contradict with the internal peace of the human…..some times relaxing and enjoying the life as it is and not trying to polish it more will be more convenient.