Comments on: Bad Company: Are Your Friends Really Friends?

By: Confused

Confused — Tue, 17 May 2011 23:00:57 +0000

I have a friend who I thought was my best friend but she always like leaned across the lunch table and stuff to tell my other best friend something that was sooo important that it just couldn’t wait until afterwards. I then confronted her and she just blamed it on me! I didn’t do anything wrong! Now she’s asking ,e for forgiveness but I’m not sure I’m ready to be friends with her again. What should I do????

By: Carole Heath

Carole Heath — Mon, 09 May 2011 10:05:28 +0000

This is a very interesting article and some great comments from others who have experienced life up’s and down’s regarding friendship etc. I am 63 years years old and i have met many people through life’s journey so to speak. I have found good friend’s and bad ones some have been users only want you for take, take, take, and not give anything in return unfortunately so i have stopped seeing those so called friends as soon as possible. A true friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin good or bad times, i have tried to live up to this myself if i can. Some people can stress you out if they drone on and on about things which you don’t need, but mostly my friends have been good ones which i am grateful for. That old maxim that sometimes friends can be better than some families is quite true i think.

By: Carole Heath

Carole Heath — Mon, 09 May 2011 10:03:25 +0000

By: Thomas Buckingham

Thomas Buckingham — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 22:52:31 +0000

Great article. As a Christian, I have found these things to be true, and would add:
“A true friend cares more about your character than your comfort.”
Also, NEVER take advice from someone who tells you
“The most important thing is to do whatever makes you happy!” This is possibly the worst advice anyone could ever give you.
Also, from my favorite piece of wisdom literature the Book of Proverbs:
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” -Proverbs 18:24
The Book of Proverbs says a lot about choosing your companions.
Once again, good article. I re-posted it on my Facebook page, and I’m sure it will offend some “bad friends”.

By: T-enz

T-enz — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 01:01:19 +0000

I loved this. Thankyou,
Ive done bad by my friends. In the sense of getting way too intoxicated and being cruel to them. To the point now that I am not going to be forgiven. I know and I think somewhere in their hearts they know this isn’t the real me. I don’t know what to do? I have never acted this way and am really upset with myself for doing this.. I have admitted I was in the wrong 150%. What should I do now?

By: Rida

Rida — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 00:33:50 +0000

thank you for all this because in school (im in grade 9 nearing the end of it) inculding me were 4 friends and two of my friends they make me really angry and annoyed and my other friend when im around her i can be myself otherwise for those too i have to keep up an act which i dont like one bit….those two of my friends i have tried telling them wat they were doing wrong but then they blame everything on me and ignore wat i say and they only care about their own feelings or each others mine dont even matter to them and the sad part is my other friend(the good one) shes leaving my school and going to some other one and then next year ill be with them and it used to be like that and i was extremly negative so i was hoping u would give me advice on how to handle those two friends next year because no matter wat i dont think i should run away from the problem??

By: raj kumar goel

raj kumar goel — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 05:50:07 +0000

Enjoyed the insight into friendship. Actually what friendship is? I think it is a relationship of convenience to cater to the needs of mind which needs ventilation by way of sharing its thoughts with others. We unconsciously start this process in school, college, or work place. Then the viewpoints of those other people are liked or disliked by the mind and it starts giving the preferences to certain people, whom we start calling friends. Whenever there is conflict between your own interests and that of friend, the inner feelings of friendship come to an end. To keep somebody your friend for ever, you need to be in noneed mode.But then sometimes you feel, what use of keeping a friend , if not helpful in need. True friendship is in theory only, but to keep good company, never cross the paths with whom you consider your friend, never ask for favours. Read a lot of books. Friendship be confined to one or two persons with same economic status only. You must exhaust all your money, before you ask a friend or monetary help to keep the friendship going.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 05:25:59 +0000

My philosophy is ” I’d rather be a good friend to one person- than a hypocrite to many”. I have been a good friend to so many people but from a early age realized that not everyone who you wish the best for, will in tern wish the best for you.

Thank you for the article which is so true— I worked with persons who pretended to be good for years. Gave them the best advice every time they had problems(they always came to me for help). I remember one person told me that our then boss liked me and she advised me to ” play with his and get involved to get the advantages”. I was shocked out of my wits and refused immediately– To my surprise, after I got a few promotions over the years for my hard work and helping others with theirs and bringing new ideas to the team, the same friends teamed up and wrote letters to HR that they believed that I was having relations with the boss… and don’t be surprised, they were still talking to me and asking for my help.. They didnt even know that someone who knew about their act told me who it was who wrote the letter. Its funny how people will gang up on you when they think you are excelling yet still smile with you and hate you.

So what I did, I recently deleted all contacts of persons I know aren’t my friends from y social networks and have not contacted them in any way. It does hurt because I always knew they were against me but I kept being nice to them thinking they would change and be honest. i HAVE NO REGRETS AND I WILL TELL ANYONE GOING THROUGH THIS…I PRAYED ABOUT THIS FOR YEARS AND CONTINUED PRAYING FOR THEM BUT SOMETIMES ITS BEST TO ……CUT THEM OFF!!!!! You will forever give and never receive…. Read Matthew 7:6

By: MARCO

MARCO — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 06:06:16 +0000

I have a best male best friend, and I used to be his manager, we became good friends due to we have the same interest. Of course i make more money than he does, ha has a lot of friends, and I feel that when he calls me to hang out if because i have always the drinks. he knows can get information from me about work due to we are good friends. I feel he really dont apreciated me as a friend, but only when he wants to drink is ok for me to be there for him. He has good morals and stuff because he knows i read about god and trying to be good, and he always reaching out for me to give him good advice and how to be better, but when i want to hang out with him, is always an excuse. what can I do, to handle this situation?

By: Maureen

Maureen — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 22:09:36 +0000

Some of my older friends checked out when I became successful. I have decided I am above it. I am past the point of feeling hurt, betrayed and angry. My mom always used to say it’s a compliment if someone envies you. That might be true, but if envy poisons a friendship to the point people don’t even congratulate you with your promotion, refuse to contact you for months and simply reject each and every change they get of meeting you…..

Then it’s about time to move on.

It’s a pity, but it’s really their loss. I know it’s hard to find good friends, but it is definitely problematic to find good friends if you continuously treat people in a negative, rejective and rude way just because YOU feel so intimidated by them.

It’s just no use trying to fix my gay ex that refuses to come out of the closet and till this day tries to keep up his bogus story or my infinitely envious oldest friend who seems to think she can ignore the problem by just ignoring ME.

I am saddened by the way these two people have treated me the past few years, but in my opinion this merely demonstrates their weak character and their poor judgement. If people get off on treating you like crap they merely show the world how intimidated and envious they are of you.

Last month I decided I want to be surrounded by winners- not losers. Winners respects themselves and value the way they live their life and do not feel instantly intimidated by your success. Sadly, not everyone of my past fits into this caterogy.