Comments on: How to Deal With Life’s Disappointments

By: theresa

theresa — Thu, 19 May 2011 19:33:49 +0000

How do you move on when a family member is just not there for you when you always expected them to be and you were always there for them in the past, whenever they needed you? When it also affects your children, whereas they too are so disappointed in this family member, how do you get past this?

By: bob

bob — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 18:34:09 +0000

this is very true. I am going through so many changes all at once during my junior year at college. I went from going to a small school far away where i was extremely comfortable and involved, had good friends, and a semi serious relationship. Then the end of my sophomore year my appartment, classes, and relationship all fell through. I also was unsure about my major and didnt really like anything else offered. My girlfriend met someone else and i felt like everything was falling appart. So i transfered to a bigger college a little bit closer to home as well. I found a major i love, which is the main important thing i guess but I am still rather depressed. I find my self thinking about my old friends and past accomplishments and how I spent my whole junior year depressed. But i guess you cant rush these things, hopefully one day it will lead me to something great.

By: xyz

xyz — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 06:42:40 +0000

hy hello !
im a past out from college and just entered the work sphere and lately going thru a lot from work sphere,frens n so on n may be from myself …. i have lately started expecting alot from my work i guess but at the same time when i work hard at a particular assignment at work and i only get criticised by my mentors and so on and constantly i have to deal with criticism amd makes me doubt my own capabilities if i come to think of it that did i really expect so much from my work than i realise that may be but than when i luk at the biased nature of my mentor than i realise that b it is an usual story … i dont know what to o slowly and gradully im losing my mind frame from work and things that i once wished to get now when i have them i dont even feel like working at it …My people tell me that im kiddish and so on but i dont expect them to understand me cos this turmoil in my head is not jut letting me think or letting me hope for a btter tomorrow .. i see no hope … i am not able to deal with this office politics as you might call it ..

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 09 Jan 2011 21:12:36 +0000

This was very helpfull… im going through a rough time and im bieng greatly disapointed by a loved one, but it is my extremely large expectations which are unrealisted that are causing my sadness… i just wish for once in my life that my expectations could come true instead of me having to lower them.

By: Becca

Becca — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 20:13:12 +0000

I am honestly trying my best to live in the moment. I have spent ten years of my life in a state of upset because life has not presented itself according to my “design.” I have vowed to myself that I will find a way to live my life without expectation and allow myself to go with the flow of the Universe.

I do believe we create our own madness and our own harmony.

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 23:08:27 +0000

Have you talked to your fiance about it all?

By: crazychick

crazychick — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 13:41:14 +0000

I totally agree about the expectations. I’m currently suffereing from depression brought on by the disappointments I’ve had over the last 8 months. I was getting engaged which should of been a happy time and was, well that was until my Fiance’s cousin tried my engagement ring on before I even had right infront of me. Something in my brain changed and it felt like a light had been flicked a different way and I felt a wave of grief come over me. Since then I’ve not been the same. The proposal happened in our kitchen where I hate and I hated it. I just got so disappointed that my it hadn’t met my expectations and I haven’t been able to recover or feel the same since. There are other things that have happened that have added to some disappointments but I can’t seem to be able to deal them and take everything to heart and then get so upset by it. How do I deal with something like that? I’m on the waiting list for counselling because I havent’ felt the same since she tried my ring on. It’s awful going through that and I want a way to try and deal with the past and move on.

By: prezel

prezel — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 20:43:46 +0000

if you have expectations of other people, it probably means they have expectations of you too. Not being able to fulfill those expectations can be disappointing for you. I guess it s best never to try and live up to someone elses expectations,they re probably not realistic too….

By: prezel

prezel — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 20:29:10 +0000

Interesting topic.

I often wonder how i should deal with life and its disappointments. I feel the same as high mountain, no expectations= no disappointment. But because of that i have lost motivation to do anything at all! Why would I, What is the point?

but thinking this way gets me depressed and even more disappointed. Unfortunately i seem stuck and am unable to enjoy anything (because it is all pointless)….

By: Zech

Zech — Mon, 03 May 2010 16:54:11 +0000

I feel that expectations are basically the reason we go on with our everyday lives. We have hopes and dreams that we expect to someday be accomplished. Whether these things happen or not, I think that the healthiest thing is to not give up the expectations, but to learn how to grow from our disappointments. Disappointments are, unfortunately, a part of life, but if dealt with correctly, will only cause growth. “Learn from your mistakes” isn’t a saying for no reason. I think that the true reason that people let disappointments get to them is that they just can’t step back and look at them as learning experiences. Once you have the ability to separate yourself from the situation and look at it from a bigger point of view, good can be seen from any disappointment. For instance, I recently had a big fight with my wife, but instead of being disappointed that she was so unhappy with me, I used the disappointment as a learning experience and spent a lot of time thinking what I could have done differently, and slowly, but surely, she started to notice my changes. Every disappointment, when viewed from another perspective, will bring growth.