Comments on: How to Deal With Life’s Disappointments

By: The Daily Minder

The Daily Minder — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 23:08:27 +0000

Have you talked to your fiance about it all?

By: crazychick

crazychick — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 13:41:14 +0000

I totally agree about the expectations. I’m currently suffereing from depression brought on by the disappointments I’ve had over the last 8 months. I was getting engaged which should of been a happy time and was, well that was until my Fiance’s cousin tried my engagement ring on before I even had right infront of me. Something in my brain changed and it felt like a light had been flicked a different way and I felt a wave of grief come over me. Since then I’ve not been the same. The proposal happened in our kitchen where I hate and I hated it. I just got so disappointed that my it hadn’t met my expectations and I haven’t been able to recover or feel the same since. There are other things that have happened that have added to some disappointments but I can’t seem to be able to deal them and take everything to heart and then get so upset by it. How do I deal with something like that? I’m on the waiting list for counselling because I havent’ felt the same since she tried my ring on. It’s awful going through that and I want a way to try and deal with the past and move on.

By: prezel

prezel — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 20:43:46 +0000

if you have expectations of other people, it probably means they have expectations of you too. Not being able to fulfill those expectations can be disappointing for you. I guess it s best never to try and live up to someone elses expectations,they re probably not realistic too….

By: prezel

prezel — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 20:29:10 +0000

Interesting topic.

I often wonder how i should deal with life and its disappointments. I feel the same as high mountain, no expectations= no disappointment. But because of that i have lost motivation to do anything at all! Why would I, What is the point?

but thinking this way gets me depressed and even more disappointed. Unfortunately i seem stuck and am unable to enjoy anything (because it is all pointless)….

By: Zech

Zech — Mon, 03 May 2010 16:54:11 +0000

I feel that expectations are basically the reason we go on with our everyday lives. We have hopes and dreams that we expect to someday be accomplished. Whether these things happen or not, I think that the healthiest thing is to not give up the expectations, but to learn how to grow from our disappointments. Disappointments are, unfortunately, a part of life, but if dealt with correctly, will only cause growth. “Learn from your mistakes” isn’t a saying for no reason. I think that the true reason that people let disappointments get to them is that they just can’t step back and look at them as learning experiences. Once you have the ability to separate yourself from the situation and look at it from a bigger point of view, good can be seen from any disappointment. For instance, I recently had a big fight with my wife, but instead of being disappointed that she was so unhappy with me, I used the disappointment as a learning experience and spent a lot of time thinking what I could have done differently, and slowly, but surely, she started to notice my changes. Every disappointment, when viewed from another perspective, will bring growth.

By: Mya

Mya — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 14:45:56 +0000

I spent most of my life so far being anxious and unhappy,because of high expectations.I fell into a loop of failures at university and personal life.One time I had a conversation with a meditation teacher, and he asked me when I was going to be happy.i started answering-when I finish university, when I find a great job, a husband…And then I paused,just by myself, out of the blue and I uttered-actually the only time I can be happy is-now.He just smiled, didn’t say anything.It was my AHA moment.This is truly the hardest thing to do and easily forgotten,but my creed ever since.I was afraid of life’s great tragedies,if and when will they come,that I forgot to live in the present.Yesterday is history,tomorrow is a mistery-so live NOW.

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By: Ain't life a.....

Ain't life a..... — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 12:45:34 +0000

Had an interesting one to deal with today (which led me to this site).

As a reward for going above and beyond, my company is sending myself and 9 colleagues and our partners on an incentive trip to Zanzibar for a week – fantastic!

The dates were announced today, and it falls within one of the two weeks a month that my accountant husband cannot be away. His company are not negotiable. Easy come – easy go, I guess.

It’s not a big issue in the greater scheme of things (I know that here are millions of people who would be happy to even have a job), but I am terribly disappointed…

By: DM_fan

DM_fan — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 15:51:48 +0000

Thank you so much for this article.

Earlier today, I had a fight with my wife and we were on no talking terms.

After reading your post, I realized that I have very high expectations from my wife and each time she doesnt live up to those I usually have an argument followed by a fight.

Soon after realizing that, I called her apologizing.

I completely agree with your conclusion. “….most of the time we ourselves are at least 50% to blame…”

And in my case, having expectation is the culprit.