Growing Through Grief: About My Father

My father was a Vietnam veteran who suffered from PTSD. A part of me always grieves for him, for how he suffered and how his illness affected our family. And a part of me will always grieve for the little girl whose father came back from war a stranger, and for the relationship we never […]

Are You Sabotaging Your Own Life?

You may be on a path to self-sabotage without knowing it. Dictionaries define sabotage as willful acts of destroying something or someone so that it does not work or succeed. If your destructive actions are directed towards yourself, that’s self-sabotage. People resort to these types of behavior as coping mechanisms to deal with pressures or […]

Commitment Or Attachment in a Relationship: Don’t Confuse One With The Other

In a relationship, could you be confusing commitment with attachment? You’re proud of your commitment to your partner. So you don’t bail out when they’re abusive or unfaithful. You change your usual behavior and keep silent on your opinions so as not to anger them. You know in your heart that the relationship couldn’t have […]

10 Books to Help You Break Bad Habits

The problem with bad habits is they’re not easy to shake off. Ask the smoker, the overeater, the couch potato, or the social media addict. Bad habits can also be attitudes – negativism, procrastination, envy, etc. We all know that these types of behaviors can strain if not outright destroy relationships, at work and in […]

How to Turn Conflict Into a Personal Development Tool

Conflict conveys gloom and negativism, making it seem an unlikely medium as a personal development tool. That’s because our general concept of achieving personal growth is acquiring skills and cultivating attitudes through formal classes, life experiences, strategies and outlooks that are acceptable to society. But conflict, unwelcome as it is, does have its uses, if […]

Emotional Detachment in a Relationship: How to Make It Work for You

There is an art to emotional detachment in a relationship to make it work for you. On the one hand, when you constantly tune out your partner during a conflict, you’re slowly chipping away at the ties that bind your relationship, and you’re caught unawares when it finally crumbles like a sand castle. Then again, […]

What Feeling Powerless Does to You and How to Deal With It

A generalized perception of feeling powerless can have an adverse impact on your self-esteem, well-being and behavior in everyday life. Being in control of your life and, to a certain extent your environment, is a fundamental human need. When that control is taken away from you, you feel a sense of powerlessness.

Use Your Hobbies to Develop Mindfulness

In developing mindfulness in people, hobbies are not what usually come to mind. But to the popular and tried-and-true methods– meditation, yoga – for building a mindful disposition, psychologists and analysts have found that hobbies are a great tool, too.

What You Know About Self-Compassion Is Probably Wrong, Here’s Why:

You’ve all heard about compassion – that laudable trait of feeling the sufferings of other people and wanting to help them – and the hows and whys of practicing and preaching it.  But self-compassion is in a somewhat different category. It conveys a hint of negativity – if you are self-compassionate, you run the risk […]

Understanding the Importance of Empathy in Mental Illness

More and more people nowadays struggle with mental illness in varying degrees of intensity and severity. One reason for this has to do with the very nature of modern life, which is stressful, demanding and fast-paced. While this can be beneficial when it keeps you on your feet and focused on success, it is also […]

Wonderful Examples of Kindness

Feeling stuck in life is normal for many. When you have been going through the same motions for what feels like an eternity, it can easily wear on you. While you might feel like you have tried everything to break away from routine, there are probably still countless options you have not yet considered. In […]

It’s Okay to Quit Sometimes

No one likes a quitter. Never give up. The chances are you grew up with these tenets. We’re taught to keep our eyes on the prize, to persevere until we reach our goals, and that giving up is not an option. But guess what? Sometimes, it’s okay to quit. Depending on the circumstances, giving up […]

The Pros and Cons of Being a Highly Sensitive Person

  Contrary to what many people may think, a highly sensitive person (usually called HSP, for short) is not the opposite of an insensitive person. If the latter is clearly an undesirable quality, the former is not “all sugar and spice and all things nice” either. The high sensitivity trait present in 20 percent of […]

Finding Clarity in Solitude

Some people find it difficult to be alone. Often, being alone is equated with loneliness, but this is one equation that does not always compute. While there have been times that I’ve been alone and lonely, I often find that solitude has a way of bringing showing me what I need. Being a remote worker, […]

When You Get Stuck in a Moment

Once in a while, we find a song that means more than all other hit songs. It embeds itself in the recesses of our brains, so much so that upon hearing the first few notes, all sorts of emotions bubble up to the surface. That, or they explode like a pressure cooker with a clogged […]

How to Achieve Your Dreams Even Though You’re Scared

Have you ever wondered what “living your dreams” meant? Just close your eyes for a minute. Take a long, deep breath. Think: what life you really wish for yourself? What goals do you want to achieve? That’s the dream to follow. What prevents you from achieving that dream? Fear. Fear is defined as “an emotional […]

Breaking the Silence About Domestic Violence

While we all know that certain types of behavior can destroy a relationship, sometimes these behaviors can actually ruin a person’s life. Domestic violence might be a very difficult topic for some people to talk about, or even hear about, but it’s crucial that more people start to recognise when either themselves or someone they know […]

Is There a Difference Between Religion and Spirituality?

With an estimated 4,200 religions in existence today, it’s understandable why many people are confused about religion and spirituality. While some consider one to be different from the other, the others believe they are just one and the same. By definition, religion refers to one’s belief in God or gods. It can also mean a […]

7 Things You’re Doing Right Now That Makes You Sad

What makes us sad? Sadness is an emotion that can range from feeling bummed out because the last chocolate donut was heisted by the enemy coworker to feeling almost numb or paralysed over a relationship that has ended. Sadness takes away self assurance. What else makes us feel sad? We might have control over how […]

How to Practice Mindfulness in Online Dating

Online dating has become a widespread activity among men and women. But just like in the traditional dating styles, there are principles of behavior to live by, if you want to find a decent partner worthy of your love and respect. Men, especially, are not very mindful of how they present themselves to women and […]