1. Everything is temporary.
Everything. When you cut yourself, you bleed, nurse a wound for a while, and then it heals. When a flower blooms, it’s beautiful for a while, and then it dries up. When there’s a storm, the rain and thunder may rage all night. But that passes, too.
In the middle of your world-changing experience, it may not seem like it’s going to end soon, but remember that everything is temporary – and your upside down world will right itself in time.
2. You don’t need to always “get it”.
They say everything happens for a reason. When your world is turning upside down, however, you might not be consoled by that saying – and that’s understandable. Sure, it’s easy to say that everything happens for a reason when you’re not going through some of the most awful times of your life. When in the throes of a bad period, you want to know that reason.
You want to get it.
But you don’t have to.
I wish I could say something more profound, but it’s really all that there is. Sometimes, even in your upside down world, you don’t have to “get it”. You just need to get through it. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll get it after the storm has passed.
3. Change leads to growth.
If you let it, that is. Change is something we need to accept. However, if we resist or react in such a way that it doesn’t lead to something positive, then we just make it harder on ourselves.
When everything seems to be going wrong in your life, just think of it as change, which always comes at some point; furthermore, perceive that change as something that can lead to your own growth, and you may even find those ways to grow yourself.
4. Worrying won’t change anything.
I’m preaching to myself here, really. Sometimes, I think I am the biggest worrywart in the world; and just like any worrywart, I know that worrying doesn’t really change anything, but it is so easy to fall back to familiar patterns of thinking about “what ifs”. When you’re going through life-changing negative circumstances, try focusing on this and NOT worry. Instead, channel your energies into more productive things.
There’s this mantra I like to turn to when I start worrying too much, and I think it will help you, too.
5. The only thing – and the best thing – to do is keep going forward.
You can choose to worry and wallow your way through your problem. Or you can choose to continue moving forward, even if it feels like wading through a pool of molasses.
If you really think about it, this is the only thing you can do: look forward. Move forward.
One step at a time.
One day at a time.
One hour at a time.
Forward, ever forward!
Life may be unfair and unkind to you at the moment, but it won’t always be that way. Focus on these five things, and you’ll get through whatever you’re going through in a much better shape.